to do) if you're going through—or just contemplating—a divorce.
Here, real women share what they wish they'd known when they split from their husbands and divorce professionals weigh in on how to combat the most unexpected, yet most common, mistakes they've seen clients make.
Also, inform your child's teacher of the new situation, but don't automatically put your kid in therapy. Annie, 47, from Boston, felt like she didn't have any talents, besides caring for her kids, before divorcing in 2007.
"It can leave him feeling stigmatized or reinforce that the divorce is his fault," says Doares, though therapy's a good option if the behavior change is extreme. She now has a blog, Plenty Perfect.com, and sees new directions her life can take.
Adolescents tend to act out by drinking, skipping school or disobeying curfews.