Note from Vincent: This article was originally published on August 12, 2013.
They’ve only been together for three months, but they just moved in together and are already planning a wedding.
He has a lot of expectations for how my friend should be that makes me think he doesn’t really “see” my friend clearly and accept who he is.
They would audibly groan and roll their eyes and leave the room if I answered a call or a text from him or brought up his name.
They could not understand what I saw in him, and I could not really explain to them what I saw in him, but the answer was embarrassingly specific: Really Good Sex Enough Drama To Fascinate.
I tell you all of this because: I think of myself as an intelligent and level-headed person, but I still got swept away. If you can understand that you can forgive him for it. You can’t talk someone out of being in love with Darth Vader, and sadly, the worse it gets the more your friend might try to talk himself into trying to make it work because if there is a happy ending all the ways he’s had to abase himself to stay in the relationship will have been “worth it.” You tried that, it didn’t work. If this guy is really a bad person or even just a bad fit for your friend, then sadly even the best-case scenario involves pain for your friend.