That is certainly the view of Rachel Morris, a psychotherapist specialising in sex and relationships, who predicts an unhappy outcome for Lucy and Doug — and for any other friends in a set-up likes theirs.
Yet intimacy has a profound effect on the emotions, which can be very confusing, especially for women.’‘Men, however, are biologically programmed to sow their seed and seem able to disconnect emotionally from sex in a way that women cannot.
So friends with benefits relationships are often more emotionally confusing and upsetting for women.’‘We meet up every couple of weeks, go for a drink or see a film.
To a selfish man with commitment phobia, it might sound like the perfect relationship — a close female friend with whom they can enjoy companionship, shared holidays, a good laugh . There is even a term for it — Friends With Benefits — the supposed benefit being that the friends not only enjoy each other’s company, but sleep with one another, too.
For a growing number of young women, sleeping with a friend is no longer a taboo but a lifestyle choice.
We were invited to try out Pure, and as you can see from the pictures on the right, we weren’t shy about signing up for a hook-up app at all.