This list has been compiled from 13 years of personal experience watching my close family member struggle with the darkest moments of addiction.Many times I asked and prodded to get answers from my sister who was addicted to drugs.
As teenagers and young adults, it’s very easy to think that drug and alcohol use can be handled and controlled, especially if they see others they know doing the same thing.
It can become easy to rationalize like: ‘hey my friend’s been doing this for a couple years and he seems fine to me.’ Entertainment and music is full of drug references and that can add to the rationalization that drug use is ok sometimes. Boredom is a big factor in drug abuse in teens and young adults.
They are trying to understand the person they love, or are trying to love, but they don’t know how to decipher the code of adult children of alcoholics.
I consider an “adult child” someone who was raised by child-like parents, insecure, needy, narcissistic parents; parents who were unable to assist their children in forming their own, independent sense of self during childhood.
As we all know, this is a viscous cycle that is extremely difficult to break.