Over time, and especially if they’ve been in disappointing other relationships, they miss each other again and valiantly try to “make it work.” If they don’t see those patterns and correct them, that process will occur until they either wear each other out or find someone they’d rather invest in.
This is one of the most common dilemmas my patients have brought to me over the past four decades.
Though there are multiple variations on the theme, there is one way in which they all are similar: two women are in a competitive triangle with the same man.
A man in grief, angry, unhinged, or feeling newly free of cumulative stress can be a vulnerable target for an outside person, or even an unthinking seeker of temporary escape.
People in unstable situations often make in-the-moment decisions that have nothing to do with what they may need or want as time elapses.
Triangles are stable when all three legs are connected.