You’re into it, he’s into it, there’s some serious chemistry, and you might have stumbled upon something really special. In discussing this topic with my female friends, it seems to me that men are especially experienced in dealing with this dilemma.
Now, you’re faced with a most unenviable predicament: Walk away from someone who could end up being the love of your life, or put one of your friendships in jeopardy.
All you’ve said about your ex’s friend is that you find her attractive and you’re interested.
Take it from a guy who has been in this tight spot a time or two—there are three things you must do before moving forward with your friend’s ex. Anyone who has had any sort of meaningful romantic relationship can tell you that—over it or not—it would be difficult for them to be around their ex.
Perhaps you’re thinking to yourself, “We’re all adults here. So even if your friend is “OK” with you dating her ex, you are likely going to see a lot less of your friend.
But you do need to make sure you go about this right.
Luckily, a woman can approach this in pretty much the same way a man does, and that’s where I can help a sister out.
If you said you thought she was “The One” and your “Soul Mate,” I might reconsider, but she would have to hold that sort of potential.