There is no need to rush through this important stage and every reason to go slowly.
Stage 4: Commitment or Engagement At this stage in a relationship, couples should have a good understanding of their partner’s values, life style, and goals for the future.
Often (not always) there is not enough “is this the right person for me” but rather more “what can I do to make this person like me?
” This stage may last for 3 or 4 months depending on the individuals and their maturity, experience and self-understanding.
As intimacy develops between the two people, more self-disclosure emerges, both verbally and nonverbally as couples act in ways that are more like how they are in their daily life.
This is when the big question emerges even more strongly: “Where are we headed?
Different arenas for meeting allow for different opportunities to get to know each other and see if there is enough curiosity or interest to take it to the next level which would involve arranging a second or third meeting.